My darling friend has just left and once again I am amazed at how wonderful, beautiful, intelligent and sprirtual friends I have. The depths, the clarity, the thoughts, it just amazes me.
We were talking about shallow things at first but after a little while we got into the things that really matters and it was incredibly interesting to discuss birthorder with her and how it affects us. Are you a rebellious last-born or a first-born leader? Perhaps you’re the nothingy middlechild?
We agreed that you should either have one, two or four children. Never three or five. The middlechild always gets labelled “middle” and rarely gets enough attention. You’re not the cuddly and sweet baby nor are you the groundbreaking leading first. You’re just in the middle.
I’m an only child which is equivalent to first-born bar the fact that first-borns go through a trauma when the second child is coming along; suddenly mummy and daddy are concentrating on someone else!! Shock horror! I’m not the centre of universe!! (Which indicates I should still condsider myself the centre of universe which I don’t, but I guess that’s perhaps learned behaviour.)
It is also very interesting to look at your birth-order in connection to your husband/wife. Then look at your parents, is your dad a last-born and your mother a first-born? Or is it the other way around? And their parents? Who’s the dominant? Who’s the leader? Did your grandmother grow up as a first/born, go on to marry a last-born? Who have you taken after from your parents? Have you grown up with a strong mother that you have looked up to and vowed to be like, or have you grown up with a weak mother that you decided that you will never be like? How have that affected your choice of partner?
It is so interesting once you start digging in things like this! What made us what we are today? What affected us, and more importantly, what didn’t?
